Funerals are sensitive times to honor the lives of loved ones and friends. The dinner or celebration is a time to gather, but the service requires a respectful presence.
Below are a few tips to help you show up respectfully during this difficult time.
The Invitation. Ease the burden on the host family by responding to their invitation immediately so they can make the needed accommodations. If you are not able to attend it is always appropriate to send a card, flowers, or home cooked meal to the family’s home.
What to Say. Don’t feel the pressure to overdo your condolences to the grieving family. These are friends, family, or people who made a special impact on you. A simple, “I’m so sorry for your loss, I know it’s difficult for you.” is sufficient.
Attire. While the common stereotype is to strictly dress in all black, it is not imperative. You should always dress in an appropriate outfit that is clean and pressed.
Electronics. Leave any mobile devices or electronics in your car. There is no need to take photos or respond to messages during the service.
Children. Never discourage a child from wanting to attend a service. It’s important for kids to learn that death is a part of life. Leave the noisy games and electronics in the car. Sit in the back of the service if you anticipate having to remove them if they are young and noisy.
Leaving. Wait to exit until the casket has been carried out or the service is completely over. Say your goodbyes and offer your support to the grieving family. If you are comfortable, commit to bringing over dinner or providing childcare one night.
Funerals are a time for remembrance and respect for a life. Although tears are shed, it’s also time to honor someone. Always remember to act with class and dignity to show respect to all.
