Etiquette of the Social Kiss

When you go to a social engagement do you do the social greeting kiss? When you arrive, do you kiss everybody hello? The decision on whether or not to opt for a social kiss depends on the situation and the relationship between the parties involved.

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Following are a few tips to keep in mind when determining the prospect of a social kiss:

• Strangers – As a general rule, you should not kiss people you do not know. A handshake would be more appropriate in formal and professional settings.
• Colleagues – In a boardroom setting, a social kiss would be out of place. In a casual setting with colleagues, a social kiss would be determined by the professional level and familiarity between you and your co-workers. If you are in doubt, allow the other person to take the lead.
• Technique – If you decide a social kiss is appropriate, make sure your actions are clear to the recipient. Equally, rejecting a social kiss would be considered rude and cause unnecessary discomfort.
• Kiss on the Cheek – You will want to avoid the overly affectionate smacker, but also, just touching cheek to cheek may feel insincere. A simple peck on the cheek is acceptable.
• Right Cheek First – In some cultures, both cheeks are kissed. Generally, you kiss the right cheek first, but prepare to change direction to avoid any embarrassment.
• Don’t Linger – Do not hang onto the other person too long and make sure that your hands are kept well above the waist. Social kissing is strictly cheek-to-cheek and not on the lips.
• Hand Shake – If you are more comfortable with shaking hands, make sure you hold your hand out before the other person begins a social kiss, as you don’t want to embarrass them.

If you are in a group setting and you just don’t know what is appropriate for that particular situation, allow others to take the lead a follow suit.

Wishing you much success and happiness!

Patricia Rossi, America’s Etiquette and Protocol Coach, www.patriciarossi.com