6 Tips to Improve Body Language
Everything about you makes a statement, but research has shown that body language makes up a large portion of our interaction with one another. So, by taking the time to improve your nonverbal communication skills, you can enhance both your personal and professional life.
If you would like others to find you approachable and trustworthy, remember the acronym “SOFTEN” and apply the following tips.
- Smile – There is no other nonverbal action that conveys a more positive message than a genuine smile. Of course, it must be genuine, because people won’t respond well to spuriousness. The way to communicate a genuine smile is to show sincere care for the other person.
- Open Posture – When talking with someone, do not cross your arms or legs, as these closed postures may convey negative feelings, such as fear, anger, sadness or disgust. However, open postures increase positive feelings, such as showing interest, agreeableness, and happiness. Therefore, keep your back straight with your shoulders back and your arms in a relaxed position. Try to keep your legs uncrossed (unless at the ankles), and in a more relaxed pose as well.
- Forward Lean – When someone is speaking, lean forward slightly. This is a sign that you are interested in what they are saying. If you show interest in what other’s have to say, chances are they will pay attention to you as well.
- Territory – Try to maintain between 18 and 36 inches between yourself and the person to whom you are speaking. Any closer may feel awkward and make the other person uncomfortable.
- Eye Contact – Good eye contact does not mean staring fixedly into someone’s eyes, since this may seem confrontational or intimidating. Intervals that last four to five seconds would be more appropriate, as this will establish trust and a good rapport with the people you meet.
- Nod – When someone is speaking, an occasional nod conveys that you are listening and it validates the speaker. It shows that you are attentive to what is being said.
You will be amazed how small movements and slight gestures make a big difference in the way people respond to you.
Wising you much success and happiness!
Patricia Rossi, America’s Etiquette and Protocol Coach, www.patriciarossi.com
