5 Tips on Dealing with Difficult People at Holiday Gatherings
Most people look forward to holiday parties and social gatherings with family, friends and co-workers. However, it seems there is always one relative, acquaintance, or employee who has an uncanny ability to find you and attempt to suck you into their world of… well…craziness. There are polite ways to handle such “interesting” people without having to miss out on a single festivity.
Here are some helpful tips:
- Prepare in advance. – If you know a particularly complex person will be at the party, mentally prepare yourself beforehand. Consider their shortcomings and how you intend to deal with them. Know what you want to say and do so you’re not caught off guard. Plan on being in their social space as little as possible. Have a 3 step plan. Be kind and swift while positioning yourself to move onto the next person,place or thing that might offer social ease and comfort.
- Don’t create conflict. – Avoid asking people questions that may cause a disagreement. Of course, we all know that politics and religion are two subjects to avoid, but asking questions that are seemingly very personal should be avoided as well. Ask more open questions like, “What have you been up to lately” instead of “Did you find a job yet?”
- Artfully exit a conversation. – It’s nice to spend a little time talking to as many people as possible at a gathering. If someone is an excessive talker, after about five minutes you can politely say something like, “Excuse me, I just saw Aunt Rosie and I need to ask her something. It’s great to see you.” Then smile and walk away.
- Don’t overindulge. – Avoid having too much to eat or drink. Both can cause one to behave in ways they wouldn’t normally. Holidays are times of celebration, but this doesn’t mean we should ignore self control.
- Avoid overreacting. – If someone says or does something that you don’t agree with, try not to overreact to the situation. Sometimes saying something will only make matters worse. Realize that patience is an attractive model of inner strength and only say something if it is absolutely necessary.
We all have our flaws; only some people show theirs outwardly more than others. Keep in mind that everyone has merit and value. Make it a goal to find the good in everyone and hopefully the annoying attributes will appear less bothersome.
Wishing you much happiness and success!
Patricia Rossi, America’s Etiquette and Protocol Coach, www.patriciarossi.com
