Have you ever been out with a group of four or more people and listening to someone who is speaking when suddenly somebody else starts up a new conversation with you at the same time? You may want to continue listening in on the first conversation, but don’t want to be rude to the other person who started a new discussion. This can be awkward and even frustrating at times.
Following are some tips to help you deal with this circumstance and other group conversation situations.
- Graciously tell the person who has interrupted the conversation what the discussion is about and draw them in. For example: “I’m sorry; Joe was just telling us how to properly grill a steak. Do you mind if we finish listening to his instructions and then we can discuss what you were saying?” Notice the words “us” and “we”. They are used to draw everyone into the conversation, even the one who interrupted. Then, be sure to get back to what this person was trying to tell you by asking them, “Now what were you saying before?”
- When in a large group with people on each side of you, there is a good chance there will be multiple conversations going on. In an effort to not leave anyone out, it is polite to spend some time speaking with the person on your right for a while, then switch to the person on your left and try to spend an equal amount of time speaking with them.
- Do not attempt to converse with someone who is several seats away from you by shouting across people or the table. If you must speak to someone who is not seated near you, get up go over to them.
If you are attempting to join into a group discussion, don’t just start talking to someone and draw them away from the conversation they may be listening in on. You may approach the group and listen in and wait for the right moment to join in the conversation. It is important to be a part, add value, and also show respect. Wishing you much happiness and success!
Patricia Rossi, America’s Etiquette and Protocol Coach, www.patriciarossi.com
